I’m a Bad Girl Blogger

I wanted to take a moment to thank HH and Lo from MySexLifeWithLola for honoring me with a bad girl blogger badge. I’m a rule breaker and an absolute asshole blogger, but they’ve already nominated nearly all of my favorite bad girl bloggers! I need to get out into the community and read a little more–but you may check out the original post and their list HERE.



Like Playing Two Truths and a Lie

I get them so rarely–comparatively, given the life of the blog, but my favorite emails are ones in which readers think they have spotted Sir and I out and about in public. If they don’t provide descriptions, I always email back and ask, because I find these both interesting and telling.

Some recent favorites:

Short redhead and tall, well-built man at a grocery store in (my city). She was wearing this retro pin-up dress and heels and a collar and the man kept patting her ass affectionately and tugging on her D-ring. Pretty sure it was you two out shopping for dinner!

Two hipster looking youths–early to mid twenties, both covered in tattoos, the man with an air of something hyper masculine about him. The girl, short and coquettish with glasses with no lenses.

Two professional looking types, early thirties, at an airport. The woman is a short redhead in high heels, and the man a brassy blonde in a well-cut suit. They are leaving on different planes and both carry suitcases. They are unafraid of PDA and share a passionate kiss before they part ways.

I swear I saw you at (name of local fetish/sex club). You look just the way you describe in your blog, and I’d know those full, pouted lips anywhere. He was spanking you in a crowd of people and you were wearing a bustier. There was a pseudo gang bang that you found yourselves in the middle of. I respect a man who can pull off leather pants.


I’ve been very lax in mentioning the city I live in on the blog, because it’s a huge city and giant tourist destination, so I’ve felt comfortable and anonymous even though everyone knows the name. Consequently, these don’t make me uncomfortable, but I marvel at the little things that people have right, and the large things that they have wrong. I like to peek over your shoulder and know what you think of Sir and I… the kinds of people you think we are, the every day bodies we inhabit outside of Fatal and Sir.

Kinky people are among us… and truly, you might find us in any of these scenarios, because we are normal people. I’ve never been approached by someone who reads my blog in person–I imagine this is because I don’t put many pictures up and the ones I do put up are not very revealing, but I wonder how I’d react. Probably deny, deny, deny, to be honest, but the tiny exhibitionist in me might say: “well… perhaps,” and blush, coquettishly, as one person described me. And maybe the arm of the man beside me would wrap protectively around my waist and he’d pat my ass affectionately, and smirk.

I don’t know about the leather pants though. *snort*

If the Sky Could Dream, it Would Dream of Dragons

The lovely Mrs. Fever has graced me with a truly unique award and one that I gladly accept. I have had many dragons (chinese zodiac) in my life, and each one has left a lasting impression upon me. To accept this award from a Dragon is a special gift all its own. Thanks, Feve. Love ya, babe.


Rules of acceptance:

  1. Visit and thank the blogger who nominated you. (check)
  2. Acknowledge that blogger on your blog and link back to them in your post. (check)
  3. Share 7 things other bloggers may not know about you. (below)
  4. Nominate up to 15 bloggers for Dragon’s Loyalty Award, provide a link to their blogs in your post, and notify them on their blogs.  (below)
  5. Copy and paste the award somewhere on your blog.  (aaaand done!)

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  • I take things like Zodiac pretty seriously even though I try not to. It’s really hard not to when you so rightfully match up with yours.
  • I used to want to be a psychologist, but I didn’t think that with my own mental disorder I could handle the stress of the job.
  • I leave little pieces of myself places. Every person in my life gets someone different… a piece of me that someone else might not get or understand. This blog gets the part of me that I share with no one, except for my partner(s), which is why I am quite wary about meeting people who know me via the blog, in spite of the deep sense of community I feel.
  • I have a hard time processing “in-betweens.” I tend to be all or nothing in everything I do, especially in my relationships with friends, family or lovers. If I love you, I would do anything for you. If I hate you, I wouldn’t piss on you if you were on fire. Naturally, this complicates things.
  • I’m a hypocrite through and through and I hate hypocrites! I hate secrets, but I keep plenty myself. I hate lies, but I lie like I get paid for it nearly every day. I hate Florida but I love the ocean. You get the picture.
  • My self esteem is in the toilet, but my self confidence is through the roof. I hate myself, but I am immeasurably arrogant. I believe (at times) that no one wants a thing to do with me, and then I tell myself that I can have anything that I want (and will go to incredible lengths to get it, if only for the ego boost it provides). Sometimes I wonder if I’m a terrible person, and sometimes I don’t care if I am.
  • I question my motivation for this blog on at least a bi-weekly basis. I’ve thought many times about deleting it, or making it all private. I wonder if it is a selfish collection of stories for me to look back upon when my time is up. I wonder if it really is a tool I use to decompress, or if it is a tool I use to communicate to Sir. I wonder if I just keep it up because it helps me feel less alone.

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Dragon:  yang; symbol of power, strength, and good luck for people who are worthy of it; the most highly honored animal in the hierarchy; upwardly rising, though not as a phoenix; guarder of treasure, keeper of strength, ruler of all elements; benevolent and wise, but not without fierceness and pride.

Dragon Loyalty:  to demonstrate a willingness to fly, to learn, to ascend to new heights, to look ever upward, to be more; to guard what you treasure, to take pride in your values, and do so with fortitude and forbearance; to find strength in your scaly armor as well as the tender heart that armor guards.


(for facing ever-upward, finding strength in the journey, and learning to fly)
I try not to assign awards to people who have already received them:

Sadey–as she embarks on a new journey. Good luck, dear. :]
I’d like to nominate my dear, dear Dawn, but Feve beat me to the punch. 😛

To those who would accept this award:  望子成龍 — Be As A Dragon

TMI Tuesday: Game Show Edition


1. The Price is Right:

What is the right price to make you have sex with a total a total stranger?

I’ve had sex with strangers for free. That was a long time ago though. I don’t think I’d sleep with a total stranger now, unless it was James Deen.

Unless it was enough money that I could go to the grad school of my dreams… and travel for a few years unfettered by the responsibility of a 9 to 5. Maybe there is a sum. Haha. I’d sleep with a stranger for 100K or 2.

2. Make Me Laugh:

What part of your naked body when touched, makes you laugh?

Anywhere within three inches of my belly button, behind my knee cap and the arch of my foot. I’m really ticklish.

3. Family Feud:

What act could you do or thing could you say that would really upset your significant other?


4. Supermarket Sweep:

You’ve been set free in a sex toy market that includes small items (e.g. condoms, vibrators) to large items (e.g. Sybians, spanking benches) and everything in between. What 5 items will you put in your shopping cart?

Oh gosh.

-Sybian: I’m very… curious.
-Lelo anything: I really love the brand and would love another piece from the collection.
-Glass: Something big and beautiful and expensive
-Fox Tail: I really think I want a fox tail anal butt plug. It has nothing to do with a fur fetish… just something I find very pretty.
-Flogger: Oh I’d have to grab a beautifully crafted flogger and probably give it to Sir for a test drive. ;]

5. The Dating Game (Blind Date, UK version; Perfect Match, Australian version).
For fun click HERE to see the crazy fashion of the bachelorette, plus actor John Ritter is one of the bachelors.

Part I – There are 3 contestants to which you will pose your questions. Will your contestants be of your opposite sex, your same sex, or a mix?

A mix. 1 opposite, 1 same, and maybe someone non-binary for the fun of it.
Part II – What are 3 questions you would ask the contestants?

1) Do you consider yourself monogamous/ do you believe people are monogamous by nature?
2) Are you at all interested in BDSM?
3) How do you feel about Separation of church and state?

I’m not so romantic, perhaps, but I’m direct and would like to know if I’m wasting my time.

Bonus: TMI Tuesday Cash Cab (several International versions) – Unsuspecting taxi passengers hail a cab and suddenly find themselves on a TV game show. While on the cab ride you must do specific acts ordered by your cab driver in order to win cash and get the full free cab ride to your destination.

The TMI Taxi has just picked you up. How much cash will you win? At which level will you stop the cab, end the ride, and be dumped at the curb?

Level 1: Flash passers-by either by lifting your shirt or mooning them – $20 (all cash prize amounts are USD)
Level 2: Dry hump another passenger in the cab with you (remember the camera is recording) – $50
Level 3: French kiss the cab driver for 1 minute – $75
Level 4: Have sex, in the cab, with the other passenger who is a complete stranger and…
– if you are gay/lesbian the stranger is heterosexual
– if you are heterosexual the stranger is your same sex
– if you are bisexual you are just having fun *wink*

Cash prize $1000

Perhaps surprisingly, I’d probably stop after level 2.

Unless I was drunk. I sometimes make bad choices when drunk. I’m also super flirtatious. Woo.


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Happy TMI Tuesday!

Sir and Fatal Q and A

Today Sir approached me with an idea for the blog. For awhile, I’ve thought I could do with a little input from Sir on the blog, just for perspective’s sake, and today he suggested a Q and A of sorts, wherein we collect questions via comments on this post, my (brand new!) twitter account (@FatalSyndrome) for the blog and via email.

I figure I’ll collect questions for a week or so, and then together we can draft a post with my answers and his answers. I’m kind of stoked about this, so I’m hoping that my readers don’t hold back (coughHINTcough).

So this is me, both shamelessly plugging my new twitter (@FatalSyndrome) and plugging my request for questions for Sir, myself or for both of us to answer. Excuse me this week, as I’ll probably be reblogging this for bumps.

PS. Sir made a comment about dirty live tweets. I don’t know if he was serious but the thought, as he said, blew my mind. So there’s that too.

E[Lust] #55

rose Photo courtesy of Sex with Rose

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #56? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Why I Post Nude Photos (and blog about sex)
Discovering Myself Through My Strap-On
Sex Toy Shaming and Bigoted Wise Cracks, FTW!

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Aftercare and BDSM Play
Two worlds

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

*You really should consider adding your popular posts here too*

All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!

Erotic Fiction

Come Again
And When I Take You…..
Ride on the Night bus
Superotica Valentine – Day 1
The spelling lesson

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

Please let me just say “no.”
5 Easy Mistakes to Make While Flirting
SexyLittleIdeas – The Woman in the Dark Alley
Treasured Property
Supporting Love and Freedom
Predicting My Own Future
Let’s Go Down Again
How to eat my pussy
10 (non-sexual) ways to be intimate with your
Permission to be Human: Granted.
Squirting: What Science Says

Erotic Non-Fiction

Date with V. (N. Likes)
Saving Movie Night
Wicked Wednesday: Nervous
The Painter
Stolen Moments Turn Into Treasured Memories
The Art of the Blow Job and Deepthroat
Stun Guns & Happiness
Fatal’s First Time (with a Hitachi)
First Session
Probation Officer #145: Bowre of blisse 9
Trust Games


you will ask Me to fuck your ass
Fish & Chips
This is not an invitation
Men I Have Known
My Storyyy (Trigger Warning)

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

More Than Whips and Chains
Being shouted at: kink or abuse?
Explaining violence and sex
Awww Yeah – Targeted Marketing!
Grass is always greener – swinging
Lazy Dog Sex Position

Sex News,Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

Valentine’s Day Sex Toy Selections
Discovering My Sexuality
Pathologizing Male Aggression


Sex is…


TMI Tuesday: State of Being


1. What is going well with your life?

Education, Job Search, Sex Life

2. What is going well with your sex life?

One word: Shibari.

3. What do you want in your life that you currently do not have?

A career that both fulfills me and leaves me with more money than I need.

4. Are you happy or grumpy when you wake in the morning?

Oh, it depends on my dreams, how much sleep I had, etc.

5. What attracted you to your first crush?

He had a crooked smile and beautiful hair.

6. What attracted you to your current crush/lover/significant other?

His capacity for caring and his ability to listen and understand; his patience.
His sexual magnetism, the way his voice sounds when he wants me, his dirty mind.
His beautiful face, his eternal 5 o’clock shadow, his hands, his shoulders, his smirk.

Bonus: What would you do if you had one day left to live?

I would make sure that everyone that I love knows that I love them and then I’d probably go on a crazy bender. Bring on the tequila.


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!

Match, Cinder & Spark for your e-reading Pleasure

Consider this a shameless plug for my dear friends Lola and HH of MySexLifeWithLola

You can purchase the first volume of this kinky narrative here for the low, low price of 1.99$ and take Lo with you anywhere you go.

Please, if you like reading erotica, or if you are a fellow writer in this community of ours, consider supporting HH and Lo on this new venture. If You cannot, I suggest you head on over to their page and congratulate them on publishing. :]